Posted 17 hours ago

I AM ALLOWED TO COMPLAIN

I AM ALLOWED TO CRY OVER SIMPLE THINGS

I AM FULLY AWARE THAT OTHER PEOPLE HAVE PROBLEMS TOO AND THEY ARE PROBABLY WORSE OFF THAN I AM

DO NOT REMIND ME OF THAT WHEN I AM UPSET

MY FEELINGS ARE VALID

I AM ALLOWED TO COMPLAIN

WHAT IS SIMPLE TO YOU COULD BE STRESSFUL TO ME

STOP TELLING ME TO THINK ABOUT PEOPLE THAT HAVE IT WORSE

STOP STOP STOP

(Source: vikingsrph)

Posted 17 hours ago

melodiesofmayhem:

crab-cakes:

kexx:

officer1bdi:

hannasnonsense:

Telling someone they’re not good enough is not okay

Telling someone they’re not good enough is not okay


I don’t care if you’re joking. I don’t care if you think ‘It will push them to work harder.’ Because it isn’t a joke, and it will not always make someone want to work harder to prove you wrong.

Sometimes they accept it as a fact, then they live with a mindset of “Why try when I’m just going to fail?”

It’s not okay.

GPOY

I remember acing my AP European History test and being ecstatic about it until I told my father and he shrugged it off like it was nothing. Then I felt terrible for feeling so proud of myself.

This sort of shit fucks people up man. Perfectionism is not something that can be obtained and it is a horrible, negative schema to get stuck in. No matter how well I did it was never good enough for my mom. “Go get involved! (when I was younger)” “Well now that you’re involved now I have to drive you places…” “Man Tae Kwon Do is getting pretty expensive” “Why would you quit? You quit everything! You’re a quitter.” “Omg why’d you get a B?” “Oh you got all As…eh.” Currently going through therapy to get over this mentality. 

"Everyone else can do this, why can’t you?" "You’re just being lazy, you need to work harder." "No, don’t give me excuses. You failed because you didn’t care enough." "You let yourself fail. You should have seen your partner’s behavior and taken the work load all onto yourself. You let that happen and you let yourself fail." "College is so important and you have to go" ( "I mean, sometimes some people aren’t cut out to go to college." ) "I know you’re capable of more than a C, so why aren’t you doing better." "You’re not trying hard enough to get a job. People probably haven’t called you back because your hair is a strange color" (fyi, it was a sandy blonde). "Why can’t you just do things my way for once."

There’s more where that came from, but I think you get the point. The hilarious part is that my mom always asks “You should come talk to me if you have any problems, okay honey?” Yeah, okay. That’s exactly what I’m going to do after 20 some odd years of that.

THIS. tHIS. THis. This. THIS. this. this x infinity cause this shit is stupid and needs to be stopped and wow.

(Source: 8-bit-goat)

Posted 17 hours ago

fiyero-rocher:

theatre = art form

theater = location

if it has musical numbers = musical

if it does not = play

when in doubt, just call it a show

Posted 17 hours ago

http://i-dont-speak-indian.tumblr.com/post/83054513055/cultureisnotacostume-teaching-consent-to-small

cultureisnotacostume:

Teaching Consent to Small Children

afrafemme:

A friend and I were out with our kids when another family’s two-year-old came up. She began hugging my friend’s 18-month-old, following her around and smiling at her. My friend’s little girl looked like she…

Posted 17 hours ago

selfcareafterrape:

I told y’all I would write this piece when I calmed down a bit. I’m not sure that I’ve calmed down on the subject any but after seeing a post claiming that not using trigger warnings is ‘helping survivors’ it’s about time I said my part.

Trigger Warnings.

What do they look like?

tw: sexual assault in the tags

'Trigger warning: this piece contains mentions of sexual abuse.' at the top.

Some people use content warnings or cw. That’s cool too.

But those things- are what we call trigger warnings.

Why use them?

Because you aren’t garbage. Unless you are- but if so, at least be honest about it. Be honest about the fact that you refuse to have compassion for a group of individuals who have already been traumatized because it either isn’t convenient for you- or because you are an indignant privileged sack of tartar-sauce.

Trigger warnings aren’t about someone being sensitive. They’re things to alert someone that a topic may contain triggering topics.

Wait- what does it mean when someone is triggered?

One of my least favorite pieces of commentary that comes from sacks of tartar sauce is ‘if you were triggered you wouldn’t be writing about it on the internet’.

I can kind of see where people come from where they say ‘triggered isn’t just being upset!’ because that is correct. But trying to police the edge of upset and triggered is very gross of you. Especially if you don’t know the person.

Being triggered can encompass a lot of things. It isn’t only having a panic attack or suffering from flashbacks. (and, fun fact, neither of those things look only one way. I’ve definitely attended classes and been on the internet while having flashbacks and flashbacks are definitely a form of being triggered. Many others can say the same about panic attacks. )

Being triggered can cause flashbacks, panic attacks, dissociation, self harm, resurgence of eating disorder behaviors and other really not fun things.

Even if your stereotypical image of what it is like to be triggered- were the only way to be triggered… I am going to let you in on a little secret… at some point- a triggered individual stops being triggered. and could then say something about it?

and taking four seconds to tag/trigger warn for common things really isn’t that hard.

What do you mean common things? are there uncommon things?

By common things I mean the biggies. The things that most people recognize can be traumatizing.

and if someone has asked you to- you should tag for ‘uncommon’ things too. Uncommon things are the things that are triggering because the person associates them with their trauma.

For instance I have a friend who is a CSA survivor who is triggered by the Rugrats. If she were to follow me on tumblr, I would tag Rugrats so that she could avoid seeing it.

But avoiding things isn’t going to solve the problem!!! They should just get help instead of asking people to tag things.

Indignant sack of tartar sauce, I know this may be hard for you to comprehend- but you do realize that it is extremely possible to be in therapy/getting help and still exist on the internet?

and that it often takes -years- for people to completely heal?

and that you are arguing against avoiding the thing and then arguing that they should avoid the internet instead. Which is extremely childish of you and selfish. 

Besides, not everyone asking for trigger warnings is looking to avoid it entirely. They’re asking so that they can be safe when they do look at those things and so that they don’t just randomly get slapped in the face with it.

and even if they were looking to entirely avoid it- unless you personally are going to be there when they get triggered and you personally are going to pay for them to get the help that they need-

you need to stop being an indignant sack of tartar sauce.

Okay?

Okay.

Posted 17 hours ago

uglysoulsbeautifulbodies:

DO NOT DISMISS A SOMETHING A CHILD IS PROUD OF. LOOK AT IT. POINT SOMETHING OUT AND TELL THEM YOU LOVE IT. IF A CHILD DRAWS YOU A RAINBOW, TELL THEM YOU LOVE HOW IT HAS RED. THEY WILL THINK “WOW. IT DOES HAVE RED. THEY LOVE HOW I PUT RED IN IT. I PUT RED IN IT. AND THEY NOTICED.” MAKE SURE YOUR CHILD KNOWS YOU ARE PROUD OF THEM.

Posted 17 hours ago

ealperin:

ealperin:

breefolk:

Laverne Cox, Keynote address, Creating Change 2014

This is such an important thing to say, though.

A lot of people are acknowledging this as a very powerful sound bite, but take a minute to really consider the context of this.

Every time you misgender a trans person, you are putting their lives in danger.

You aren’t just hurting our feelings - and there is nothing “just” about hurt feelings for people prone to suicide - you risk outing us to people we may not want to be outed to.

It opens us up to harassment, discrimination, and even assault. We could lose our jobs, our families, and our livelihood.

Every time you intentionally misgender a trans person, you tell us that you consider us to be less than animals.

WATCH THE VIDEO HERE

FULL OPENING PLENARY

Posted 17 hours ago
diverseiridescentbeings:

Alia Shawkwat- Iraqi-Kurdish, Irish, Norwegian.

diverseiridescentbeings:

Alia Shawkwat- Iraqi-Kurdish, Irish, Norwegian.

Posted 17 hours ago

ex0skeletal:

Fun shark attack facts:

  • In 1996, toilets injured 43,000 Americans a year. Sharks injured 13.
  • In 1996, 2,600 Americans were injured by room fresheners. Sharks injured 13.
  • In 1996, buckets and pails injured almost 11,000 Americans. Sharks injured 13.
  • For every human killed by a shark, humans kill approximately two million sharks.

Conclusions:

  1. Humans are assholes.
  2. Sharks are not assholes.
  3. Apparently everyone in 1996 lived in a real-life infomercial.
Posted 17 hours ago
You can’t just start the clock on 9/11 and forget 50 years of unjust oppressive Western foreign policies in the Middle East.

Medhi Hasan

Thank God someone finally said this. I’m so sick of stating that Western intervention and invasion of other countries fuels terrorism only for people to respond 'They did 9/11 first!' 

In 1953 the UK & the US staged a coup of the democratically elected leader of Iran and installed a dictator who was more to their liking. Today the US continues to support brutal dictators (such as in Saudi Arabia) where it suits them to do so. Palestine has been occupied for decades. The list of Western imperial foreign policies over the past decades could go on and on.

9/11 was not only only a result religious extremism and it certainly was not because 'they hate our freedoms.' Terrorism is often primarily politically motivated and anyone who is serious about preventing it had better take some fucking notice of this fact.

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